Emotional Affair

Cheating Stories

I’m a little embarrassed to admit that I liked someone. I don’t even know how it started.

I had been so lonely in my marriage for so long. I just wanted someone to pay attention to me.

We exchanged phone numbers strictly for work purposes like I had done with many others before. It seemed harmless.

It was only text messages back-and-forth. But every time I heard from him, I got butterflies. It was exciting. I looked forward every day to hearing from him. He said he was unhappy in his marriage and had been for a long time. He knew about the problems I was having in my marriage too. He understood.

I kept telling my husband what I needed and he would change for about a day or two. But then everything went back to normal how it was. There was no excitement in our marriage. He didn’t give me any attention. I even suggested marriage counseling several times which he disagreed with.

When my husband and I talked, all we talked about was the routine and the kids.

For my birthday, he got me a $100 gift card from Amazon that he printed from the computer. There was no thought behind it and there was no plan to celebrate.

With this new person, I felt seen.

I knew I was doing something I shouldn’t and I didn’t want it to stop. I didn’t know what to do. The conversations turned into us talking about wanting to be together.

Nothing physical happened, but I did think about it happening.

Starting Therapy - Cheating Stories.

I started thinking:

• I have always been monogamous and never believed cheating was ok.

  
  

• I felt so unhappy in my marriage for a long time.

• So many times before, I had told my husband that things were not alright and I felt ignored.

• I still loved my husband and didn’t want to hurt him.

• I felt guilty for cheating and conflicted because I liked it.

In working with my therapist, I was able to explore the reasons my affair started.

My therapist worked with me to discover that some of the reasons why I cheated had to do with a life event, the death of my sister.

I was feeling as if life was too short. I had a desire to seek out things that I considered taboo for a sense of excitement such as flirting with someone over texts.

Other reasons for my affair had to do with being unhappy in my marriage because I married young. I felt as though I had missed out on many things.

With the help of my therapist, I was able to come up with a plan that helped me move through the loneliness, pain and regret. I didn’t want to hurt my husband. I was just unhappy.

I was able to realize that even when making a mistake, I still deserved happiness and understanding.

I was able to come to a place where I could forgive myself and make decisions that would make my relationships healthier and more peaceful.

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